“Ask your yourself if what you’re doing today is getting you closer to where you want to be tomorrow” – unknown
It’s that time again! Ugh (I can see you pulling the covers over your head)! School is starting up across the country. Maybe you have been in school some time already if you were in Summer School or are in a year-round school system. So why is school, so…well…unlikable? If you think about it, it makes perfect sense!
What are you facing in school? Where do I even begin. Well, let’s see, we have: standardized testing, teacher criticism, parents expectations and lots of homework. The average high school student spends an average of 30-40 minutes per night, per class. That’s 3-5 hours average a night! If you are in sports, then you also have long practice hours and coaches riding you to practice, practice, practice and do your best. I tell ya, just writing this, I’m getting tired. Learning is hard work. It requires focus and persistence, and depending on where you are in the brain development part of things (we all go through it until our mid-twenties…it’s part of becoming an adult…really) that can cause some extra pressure and difficulty.
Oh, yes, let’s not forget about “playground” drama. On top of everything listed in the previous paragraph, you are likely feeling judged by your peers, may be having boyfriend/girlfriend drama, your body is changing faster than you can buy clothing, you phone is blowing up every 5 minutes, and a few of you (hopefully only a few) are experiencing very intense issues like bullying, parent divorce or abuse at home…I could keep going.
Add to all of this the lure of Snap-Insta-Face-Vine…and there simply aren’t enough hours in the day.
CONGRATULATIONS! YOU ARE OFFICIALLY A TEENAGER! But you know what, all of this will bring out who you want to be. Consider it boot camp for life and dealing with stress. Learning to balance work and play takes time. You will make it.
For all of you reading this…I truly hope for you that you spend these years pursing anything and everything you can so you can find out what you love. With that self knowledge, you can build your life around those passions. Fear is fine. Nerves are fine. Shyness is fine…feeling like you aren’t good enough is normal! Heck I still feel that on a regular basis. That doesn’t mean it has to stop you. Keep putting one foot in front of the other and take some risks. This school year…challenge yourself…do that one thing you really want to, but keep stopping yourself. Join that club, talk to that girl, work for a spot on the team you dream about playing on…don’t let the haters stop you. Haters likely are just afraid, insecure, jealous or some combination of this…that’s their issue, not yours. The only true failure in life is inaction.
Remember too, whether you hear it or say it, “no” is a perfectly acceptable answer. Say no to anything that is not with-in your comfort zone.