Gratitude and Perspective

This morning, as I’m leaving a shopping center parking lot, a hundred high school students are converging there for lunch.  It’s a human obstacle course!  

I was struck with feeling grateful to live in place our kids have this luxury and freedom.  Then I see a post on Facebook about gratitude…and it got me thinking that with a slight change in perspective, gratitude becomes the shining star… 

 
Something to think about. 

Be bold.  Be grateful.  Be well.

Breaking Up is Hard to Do

Recently, a teen close to me had a break-up.  I thought about the various break ups I have heard about in the past few years.  Some went okay, some not so good.   I started to wonder if there is a “right way” to break up.   Even an amicable ending hurts.  I decided, being honest with yourself and respecting the other persons feelings, and the relationship, will leave you in the best possible position when you look in the mirror. Bad behavior?  You have to live with that guilt and maybe even a deserved bad reputation!  Who needs that baggage.

How do you know when it’s time to tell someone you are ready to move on?   It’s even more difficult when you are young and newer to the whole dating/boyfriend/girlfriend thing to figure out the answer to that.  Here’s some questions to consider if you are sitting on the “break-up” fence and not sure which way to go…

1) Are you interested in someone else?

2) Have you been in communication with this someone else and you feel like there is something between you?

3) Can you picture yourself without your current partner?

4)  Can you envision you or your partner with another partner?

5)  Do you feel insincere or distracted (rather be somewhere else) when you are with your current partner?

6)  Has either of you been unfaithful or dishonest to the other?

7)  Does being with your partner leave you feeling sad, angry, misunderstood or any other negative emotion on a regular basis?

8). Do you regularly wonder why you and current partner are together?

If you answered yes to any of these, it’s a sure sign that your current love life is few cherry bombs short of your fireworks love show.

First of all, if you have feelings for someone else, or you know your partner does, it seems that your current relationship is only partially intact.  Maybe it’s not intact at all, you both likely don’t want to hurt the others feelings by breaking up.  NEWSFLASH…you are both lready hurting!  This type of dynamic likely has one or both of you feeling insecure and/or inadequate.   Trust? That may not even exist depending on what’s been going on.  Ouch.

If you end up feeling down, or negative after time with your current partner, is that fair to either of you as well?

Let’s face it, we fall for people that may not always be a good match for us.  Sometimes it’s downright toxic (brings out all your demons).  Happens to the best of us and we end up in less than ideal relationships.

Consider holding the love you have shared in the past and be honest that it’s time to hug and part ways.   Hopefully with both of you feeling respected and holding your head up!

Nothing beats a secure, trusting, loving relationship to help us grow into the best version of ourselves. The right partner often inspires this in us.  It’s the rare occurrence when two people meet and become life partners.

So…take ownership of your heart and your love, and nurture it.  If you aren’t with the right person…it’s okay to be honest and say good-bye.  Reclaim your boundaries, where needed, and decide if you should move on.

Being single with a healthy heart and mind is far better than a broken hearted couple.

Be brave.  Be bold.  Be well.

THANK YOU!

“Things are always okay in the end.  If things are not okay, it’s not the end yet”. 

– The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel

To those that are reading posts here…thank you!  With out any readers..well…the blog feels a little lonely.   Until the next post (coming soon)…
Be bold. Be brave. Be well. 

Words to Live by…

Back from vacation and happy to be home.  Working on the next post and well…I saw this and just had to share!

Work for a cause, not for applause

Live life to express, not to impress

Don’t strive to make your presence noticed, Just make your absence felt.

Cheers!  Be well.

Make your Choice

Ok…every day we make choices. The choice to get up, how to dress ourselves creating our image to the world, how we nourish our bodies, who we spend our time with, how we speak and what words we choose, how we nourish our minds…you get the idea.

I would like to start a dialogue on the concept that these choices can either bring light and love into the world or our decisions and actions can breed hostility and darkness.   I believe you have the choice to bring to yourself peace through your choices or drama.  No matter what your circumstance. For sure, some moments are easier than others.  Regardless, which do you choose?

I intend to research and continue this conversation.  But in the meantime…are you, in your everyday being, supporting the idea of being American?  Being the person your God wishes you to be?   Standing for the ideals and values of so many of those before us?

Freedom, Human Rights, helping the suffering and oppressed, defending against tyranny, the right to pursue happiness, God, Individualism, just name a few.

You are the future. Who you choose to be matters as every action creates a reaction.  The reaction may be to another person, another living creature, the environment…

I challenge you, as the future of our great nation, to THINK before you choose.

Be strong.  Be bold. Be wise. Be well